There’s a one in 365 chance you’ll stumble upon this blog post on a day other than January 1st. Well, so what? Any day is a good day to make a fresh start. It’s just a trending conversation as we throw out our old calendars and pin up a new twelve months.
I’m making a couple changes. Are you ready to break that bad habit yet? Are you about to reach for a major goal? Then, I’m here to cheer you on as well as share my successes and inevitable failures with you. So, like always, I did a bit of research to help us both out.
- From MY YOGA ONLINE, Gabrielle Harris shares the story of Buddhist lamas that work over the course of decades, DECADES, to perfect certain poses. The evidence of their slow, persistent attempts is seen in the ruts their hands and feet wear into the stones. Gabrielle tells the tale to remind us that the path to major change is a slow and steady one, so be patient with yourself. I’d also suggest you journal each day – even if you only jot down a single word in your smart phone “Notes” app. Make a record of your journey so that you can look back over time and appreciate how far you’ve come.
- Also from Gabrielle, be clear about your goal. Be as specific as possible and set your intention. My personal example is that I intend to start losing weight, today! I’m doing this specifically to have more energy and reclaim my health. (Yes! You need to add that level of detail.)
- Which brings me to tip #3. Set your goal for yourself, not someone else. Don’t set a goal to please your mate, impress your friends or outdo your coworkers. Those goals won’t be achieved. It’s got to be something you want for yourself first. Let the reaction of others be a happy side effect, agreed?
- Confide your goal in someone you trust – even better – find someone else aiming for the same goal and team up. Then you can support each other, check in with one another, encourage and share in your successes and missteps. When I vlogged about this subject for teens, my example was about raising grades. Simply raising grades involves changing many small daily habits, like where you study, when you study and who you spend your after school hours with. This is all infinitely easier if you have a mutual friend to study with each day at the library.
- Forgive yourself. You’re going to screw up, slip, or forget. Don’t give up! Remember what the lamas taught us? Change happens gradually. You’re in this for the long haul, so keep that in mind and give yourself a pass every now and then. Wake up tomorrow and start fresh again. Slight footnote here – if we’re talking about major addiction, that’s a different challenge entirely. I still care about you and your journey, but please, seek a doctor’s help so you can seek a clean life with every physical advantage possible. You deserve it.
- Finally, think about the roadblocks you’re going to face BEFORE you face them. For me, I know I’ll be faced with restaurant menus, surrounded by delicious smells and want to veer toward those items that are deep-fried and coated in butter. If I picture it now, I can rewrite the story. I imagine myself choosing something healthy, feeling physically good afterward, and proud. I have to play and replay my doctored up ending a few times, but it gives me a stronger chance of making it past that particular roadblock successfully.
So, good luck to you. As always, I’d love to hear how you are doing. Until next time, take care.