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Take a Compliment!

Take a Compliment!

 

Does receiving a compliment make you squirm or cringe? Yeah, me too. And I’m sure the rest of the world agrees with us. 

But, what if we said a simple, “thanks” and then stowed those kind observations away to examine later when we were alone?

Can you remember a recent compliment someone gave you? Maybe it was that you were funny, that you showed initiative, that you hit a homer with that work project, that you looked sharp, whatever comes to mind. Now, take those words and imagine they are a marble. Weird, right?

Now find a quiet place where you are safe and alone. Pull out one of those word marbles and examine it. Hold it in your mind and try to find the grain of truth in it. And now, here’s the really tough part, sit with that truth until it doesn’t feel ill-fitting. Then, tomorrow or next week or next month when your confidence feels low, take out that marble and remind yourself of your strengths. 

Sounds strange, right? Let’s practice together.

If marbles aren’t your thing, try a gumboil approach!

The compliment: “You gave an amazing presentation.” 

The reaction: Squirm, cringe, blush, and a mumbled, “Oh, it went on too long…thanks, though.”

The marble: I gave an amazing presentation (which I know is the truth because that person has no incentive to lie to me AND I spent ten plus hours making that presentation…well…great!)

The quiet analysis: I worked hard and it showed. My hard work was acknowledged by someone I respect.

See? Not so painful. In fact, next time you start the prep for another challenge, that marble may give you the confidence to start strong.

I Am Grateful

I Am Grateful

Back CameraWhen I was in college I began a list called, “Good Things Coming My Way.” Yeah, looking at the title now it seems a bit…umm…me-centric. But, the point of the list was to take note of all I had to look forward to in the coming days. Back then I was juggling a volunteer position for University of Washington athletics, a part-time job, and a full load of classes. It was easy to feel overwhelmed, but my little list put the positive in sharp perspective.

Here are a few that showed up every week:

  • Clean white socks on my feet
  • Food in my stomach
  • Healthy legs so I can exercise
  • My paycheck
  • A call or visit home
  • Spending time with my friends

Simple stuff, right? Well, I didn’t realize how well that attitude for gratitude has served me until I lost it recently.  This election season has been derisive, corrosive, mean and ugly. And when people hurt, I hurt. It’s who I am. For a time, I was struggling to get out of bed.

Now though, after a week away from the news and social media, I’m lighter in spirit and seeing the blessings around me again.

PollyannaToday I am grateful for:

  • Shelter over my head
  • Food in my cabinets
  • The freedom to worship God
  • The freedom of others to worship or not as they choose
  • Family and friends
  • Good schools and great teachers
  • People that do their jobs, not for the paycheck, but because they feel called to
  • My neighbors and community
  • Hope and healing
  • Healthy feet and legs that allow me to exercise
  • Fresh starts, not just on New Year’s Day, but every single day we  choose to forgive, try again, or move on

flag series copy copyA president will be elected tomorrow and we will all be okay no matter who wins. We will be okay. And if your gut still burns, focus on every little thing that is actually good in your life. You’ll find that other stuff shrinks shrinks shrinks and your heart (hopefully) heals. And if you’re still feeling fatigued, check out some panda vids here. 🙂 

 

Things We Have in Common

Things We Have in Common

big heartWe breathe.

We need to eat to live.

We love.

We try our best to do the right thing.

We care about our families.

We care about strangers.

And there’s so much more that I’m missing, right? What else do we humans have in common? As the United States seems to rage with hate-fire, I need to remind myself this is all propaganda, garbage that is leading people to become protectionist because the sky seems to be falling.

Well, the sky is still in place. And right now outside my Seattle window, the sky is actually clear and blue.

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A picture of my brother and me a long long time ago

We’re going to be okay. And also know that I love you. I care about you. And I want you to make strides towards that dream you have that brings you joy.

Add onto my list. What do you feel we all have in common?